I am feeling a bit thin skinned today and not accepting rejection too well. Before I go on any further, in my opinion, I think I am friendly, polite, accommodating, usually have something good or witty to say…but obviously, not everyone share my views (Did I mention I am big headed too and full of BS? LOL).
And before you go jumping to conclusions, I am talking about posting comments on blogs and not getting a response back from the owner or having your comments deleted altogether. Not sure about you, but I was brought up or under the impression (or delusion) that it was rude not to acknowledge correspondence. I always respond to letters and any cards that I receive and I take it to apply to e-mails and comments on blogs too, seeing that the art of letter writing and postcard sending is a dying form of correspondence (BTW, thank you again HK for the postcard from Turkey). Maybe I read too many Enid Blyton books in my childhood and did not watch enough violent movies (do High Chaparral and Bonanza fall under this category? I thought not!) and live in a cocoon that the world actually is a lovely, lovely place.....
I find this ‘rudeness’ does not only apply in the social arena, it is also prevalent in the business world. I would send e-mails to peers in other areas, asking them for information or input into a joint government response, and I get no response that they have received the e-mail or will be providing me with the info etc etc. How rude. Some of you may say that it is a “given” that a response will be provided; or being busy; that a reply is a waste of time; or that it clogs up the e-mail folder….I say BS and it is just a “bahana”…excuse for being inapt and lacking of social etiquette.
Ok, maybe I am being a bit harsh in the context of business e-mails, or non solicited e-mails. I can understand that with work pressures, an e-mail or two may slip. But what about those sent and received in the blog sphere? I am talking about legit comments or e-mails here, not nasty or inappropriate messages, or spam mails. The last time I looked, the definition of a blog or web log is “a place to read, write, edit, share, reflect and /or discuss opinions or matters of interest”. If one did not want others to join or share these discussions, why then have a public blog? Get a diary instead, I say, keep it under lock and key or make your web log private. If someone took the effort to post a comment on your blog or took the effort to write to you, don’t you think they deserve a response, at least? What do you think? I would be happy to receive your comments. Or am I being totally thin skinned here, as I said I was? Either way, your comments are appreciated.